Why Don't Black Women Like Me?

Over the last week I have gone out with two sets of women.  First group black  woman and second group white women.  Not a lot of differences in the women except maybe the ages  but that's not the point.  I behaved in much the same manner with both groups.  Small talk  about work, spouse, children etc.  no big deal.  Only difference is at the end of spending time with the black women  no one exchanged numbers, face book pages, or email address.   The white women on the other hand all wanted to be face book friends before our night ended.  It wouldn't be that big of a deal  but this happens to me all the time.

I really thought about this over the last week and realized since I moved to Charlotte  I have only met one or two black women that really wanted to be friends with me.  This has also made me wonder why?  I'm a nice person.  I'm a little shy  and I'm never the first person to initiate conversation.  Maybe people take my shyness as being stuck up.  But if that's the case why do white women talk to me and want to hang out?   I really have no answer for this question and it's really bugging me. 

This is not just in my personal life but my work life as well.  At work I eat lunch with a group of white women.  I chit chat with the black women in my office but we never really hang out.  However, I do socialize with some of the white women.  Yes there are some things about me that are not stereotypical of black women  but not that many.  I try to be encouraging to all women I meet.  I have insecurities about myself just like most women  and that's why I'm not more outgoing.  I freely give compliments to other women because I think it's a nice thing to do.  White women will usually smile say thank you and even sometimes strike up a conversation.  But not most black women  they will say thanks  and quickly move on.  

This is one blog I wish had more followers, especially black women,  maybe then I could get an answer to my question. 

46 the new 16

At 46 years old you would think that I would finally know my place in life.  Well guess what I don't. I feel like I did when I was 16.  I was not quite an adult but no longer a little kid.  My forties have the same feel for me. I'm to old to really hang out with people in their 20's and early 30's  but not quite old enough to want to be around people in their late 50's or early 60's except for a select few.  I have trouble  deciding on fashions.  I don't want to dress like my 23 year old daughter  but at the same time I don't want to dress like a grandma.  What to do?

I've decided to be me just like I did at age 16.  I was very mature at 16 so I found it hard to hang out with people my own age.  Thank goodness for a sister that was 5 years older :).  She was cool and let me hangout with her and her friends.  Back then I felt like a young person trapped in an old person's body.  And now I feel just the opposite.  I'm not old.  I don't look old and I certainly don't feel old.   It's hard for me to look in the mirror and think I will be 50 in three years.  People see me with my daughter and think we are sisters.  And besides it's really fun to keep people guessing about my age.


  I'm going to continue going out and having as much fun as possible.  I will continue to dress in what I consider age appropriate clothes and be the best me I can be!!!!!!  So to anyone else struggling with what's "age appropriate"  I say forget about it  and just have fun.